One Thousand Two Hundred and Twenty Nine


[Listening to:  We Are Scientists - "The Method" ]

Comments

Bef said…
I think this is some sort of cop out...to treat a person any ol kind of way...

You just have to take whatever kind of love someone throws at you? good or bad?

bullshit

if you don't love me like I want and deserve then we need not be together...

If half ass love is all a person has to give and it does not make me happy, does not treat me with respect...then I'm sorry...you are not the one...you are not enough for me...

I think when folks are in this situation their love for the "wrong" person or their desire to be in love clouds their judgment...they find a glimmer of hope or solace in quotes like this...

I refuse to be half ass loved because I refuse to half ass love someone...
Hex said…
Bef -- I can see what you're saying, and I don't disagree with the point you're making, but it's interesting that you went that way with it (almost as if it touched a nerve or something), because that's not really how I read it (or intended it) at all.

I think that even when people love another, that love is expressed in individual ways. That is, that people love differently. Some are more passionate, some more compassionate. But beyond that, when you add in the complications that can sometimes get in the way of those emotions (divorce, children, distance, whathaveyou) that it's sometimes not always possible to be absolutely everything that your partner wants you to be. And yet that to me doesn't mean that your love, or friendship, or connection is any less valid or strong.

It wasn't meant as some sort of endorsement of half-ass love. To me it's a message about remembering that part of the reason love happens is that people are unique and different, which also means that you can't always expect them to think or act exactly the way you expect them too.

Otherwise we'd just date/love/marry ourselves -- which would be kinda weird, you know?
Bef said…
I would totally date/love/marry myself cause I'm fuck-awesome!

I can sorta/kinda agree with you on your take on this quote.

I think where I don't quite agree is the expecting and accepting of it all.

I feel the quote is one-sided. Like I have to accept this BS love cause this person is different and this is all I'm going to get. That may be true but why do I have to accept it? Why do I have to be reminded of it?

It's like this quote was said to someone that is not happy with the way their relationship is going. reminding them they just have to accept this BS behavior or what have you because this is all this person can give you deal with it.

I don't find that to be love.

I'm taking this from a female standpoint. I can totally see some simpleminded woman believing this quote and holding onto a bad relationship because of it. This is the nerve it touched. I hate seeing simpleminded women in bad relationships.

Maybe I have an idealistic view on love. I don't think you have to lower your standards for love.

I don't find anything positive in this quote.


I rambled I'm sorry...